Thomas Ryan, Jr.

Obituary of Thomas Michael Ryan, Jr.

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Thomas Michael Ryan Jr. of Farmingville, NY, beloved husband and father of two children, passed away on the morning of Saturday, March 13th, 2021 at the age of 60. 


Thomas was born on May 24th, 1960 to Thomas Michael and Ann Maureen (Gallagher) Ryan. He grew up in both New York and California with his cherished siblings and his father`s second wife Patricia Marion (Johnson) Ryan. He developed a strong passion for competitive swimming before enrolling in the Air Force Academy. After leaving the Air Force Academy, he moved back to NY. He married his wife Heather Hudelson on September 13th, 1986 and together raised two daughters, Meagan Anne and Karyn Margaret, who were his whole world. 


Thomas, often called Tom and Tommy by friends and family, was a passionate family man and self-proclaimed handyman, though not without the occasional mishap and injury. He loved the holidays and was always excited to get in the festive spirit by decorating the home and yard. He enjoyed the sport of soccer and when not watching could also be found refereeing games. Thomas spent many years volunteering as a lector and baptism program coordinator at The Church of the Resurrection in Farmingville and a member of the Knights of Columbus. Thomas loved family vacations to destinations such as Myrtle Beach and Walt Disney World, and was thrilled when he had the opportunity to travel to Ireland and Scotland with his cousin Michael Brennan to meet so many extended family members. He was known for his quick wit, booming laugh, and care for others. He also loved reading, swimming, music, and watching movies. Above all, he loved his family and the time he was able to spend with them, be it driving across state lines to take his children to a concert or watching a movie with Meagan or a show with his "Buddy" Karyn.


Thomas was preceded in death by his father Thomas, mother Ann, and sister Maureen. He is survived by his wife Heather, his daughters Meagan and Karyn, siblings Eileen Blair (Peter), Ann Hershon (Eric), Robert, Patricia Wernet (Scott), stepmother Patricia, and many beloved nieces, nephews, cousins, aunts, uncles and in-laws.


Visiting hours under Covid19 social distancing guidelines will be Sunday, March 21 from 2:00 - 6:00 PM at McManus-Lorey Funeral Home, 2084 Horse Block Road, Medford, NY.


A Mass of Christian  burial under Covid19 social distancing guidelines will be held at 10:00 am on Monday, March 22 at Church Of The Resurrection, 50 Granny Road, Farmingville, NY.  Burial will follow in St. Charles/Resurrection Cemetery, Farmingdale. For those who wish to attend the services virtually, there will be a broadcast via Zoom.


The link is

Meeting ID: 742 6004 0079

Passcode: 922107


Due to Covid19 restrictions, no luncheon will be held following Thomas' services.


In Lieu of flowers please make a donation in memory of Mr. Thomas Michael Ryan, Jr. to:

St. Jude's Children's Hospital 

501 St. Jude Place 

Memphis, TN 38105



Tunnel to Towers Foundation

2361 Hylan Blvd

Staten Island, NY 10306


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2:00 pm - 6:00 pm
Sunday, March 21, 2021
McManus Lorey Funeral Home
2084 Horse Block Road
Medford, New York, United States
(631) 732-1112

Funeral Mass

10:00 am
Monday, March 22, 2021
Church of the Resurrection
50 Granny Road
Farmingville, New York, United States


St. Charles/Resurrection Cemetery
2015 Wellwood Avenue
Farmingdale, New York, United States
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